Body Confidence

Dear readers,

Whoever you may be, wherever you are in this world, it’s been a while. A while is possibly an understatement though; it’s been months. With university commitments and my life in general getting in the way, I’ve been a bit busy and almost completely forgot about the mere existence of this blog.

A few minutes ago I found myself curled up in my bed, under the blankets, crying. Crying you may ask, for what reason? I was crying about my body.¬†It’s no secret that many people, probably everyone in their lifetime, whether male or female, has experienced body confidence issues. I definitely experience them regularly.

Recently I’ve managed to find myself a boyfriend. Totally unexpected, the way I think it’s meant to be. As much as I love him dearly I can’t help but feel that my body confidence issues have worsened over the period of time that we have been together. Of course this has absolutely nothing to do with him – he has not once told me I’m unattractive or made me feel such a way, but I feel as though I’ve become more conscious of how I look. I’m not sure if any other people experience or have experienced such a thing, so whether or not it is odd, I haven’t a clue. Perhaps I feel as though I’ve got someones eyes on me all of the time and that I must please these eyes. Perhaps I feel as though people are looking at me with him, viewing us as a couple and thinking about whether he could do better than me. It’s hard to know, but it’s something I’m experiencing regularly.

So often nowadays I look at myself in the mirror and just simply sigh. I sigh at the fact that I have no idea when my skin will clear up. I sigh at the fact that I have to accept having the tiniest boobs on the entire planet (how do I have to deal with a teeny-tiny A-cup when my sister is a D?). You get the point, I sigh. It’s like I’m almost disappointed in the way that I look and wish that I could somehow change myself. Of course I know that there are ways I could go about doing this (for instance, surgery), but the thought of that terrifies me.

There is so much pressure put on both males and females nowadays to have this “ideal” body or “ideal” look about them. I’ve taken up some work as a fashion photographer and have heard some of the awful things people say about other people’s bodies.

“Her boobs aren’t big enough”

“He/she looks fat and needs to lose weight”

Of course this comes with the fashion industry, “naturally”, but I still thinks it’s awful.

The real question is: are we ever going to be truly happy with what we look like? The answer is no. To be frank, I think that’s an incredibly sad reality. Imagine if we lived in a world where we could all just love what we look like and have no desire to judge one another for such a materialistic property.

So, to my readers out there, leave me a comment detailing if you’ve ever experienced anything of the sort and how you have come to cope. I’d be very interested to read your responses.

Penny

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Opinion Post: The Legalisation of Gay Marriage in America

Gay marriage being legalised in America is a huge moment in history. When I heard the news, I was so happy and proud. If you haven’t already guessed, I’m clearly one of the many supporters.

What I really want to reflect on in this post is the differing views regarding this rather controversial subject. On the day that the law was passed, indeed, I did see a lot of encouraging, lovely posts that supported gay people and their new rights. However, I did see one post in particular that really caught my eye. One of my close friends, in fact, posted a photograph on Instagram, with a caption detailing how she was disgusted with what America has done, telling supporters “Congratulations. You won”.

I have absolutely no issue with people having differing opinions on the subject. I believe that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, whatever the topic is. I’ve noticed that the differing opinions on this particular subject often stem from religious points of view. Personally, I am not religious, and whilst I do accept and try to understand their point of view on the topic, it is a little hard. However I always respect others thoughts on any subject (as this is very important in any case).

Please note that what I am about to go on to write is not me making a stereotype or a generalisation about religious peoples, rather I am commenting on what one particular person said.

In reading this post that my friend wrote, I was almost a little ashamed and almost offended. Whilst I am not gay myself, I know many gay people and have gay friends, all of which I whole heartedly felt offended for. What I believe is always important when it comes to discussing a controversial subject is to always respect the other person(s) views and to not try and attack or offend them. This however was exactly what she did.

One of the first things that she wrote about in her post was about how her opinion has been suppressed. That people being against gay marriage is an opinion that has been suppressed, if you will. Now, I don’t believe this to be quite true. I think that that view has been the main, dominating view in society for many years now that has been well and truly heard. I find it very hard to accept and believe that this particular opinion has been suppressed, because it has not. I think that is a fair statement to make.

She then goes on to say how following gay marriage and supporting it is just a “trend”. She writes that people have simply “hopped on the band wagon”. I can kind of see where this point may be coming from, but for me, personally, this was never the case. Ever since I was a small child, I was always explained to that some men marry men, and some women marry women, and that that is okay and most importantly, normal. I never once had a problem with gay marriage. I never thought that it was a trend that everyone was supporting so I should support it too. Furthermore, there have been many gay people throughout our existence, most of which I’m sure were supported by in some way or another. I think it’s impossible to say that everyone has always believed it is wrong, because that is simply not the case. Perhaps it is just that more have realised that marriage, and the right to love who you love, should be a right that is extended to every human being, regardless of their sexual orientation.

The last thing I want to comment on (as I fear that this post may get too long if I keep going) is one of the most commented on statements that she made. “If love is love, that suggests that it is okay for incest”. Personally, I find it hard to see the link between gay marriage and incest. To me that seems as though it is touching on an entire different subject that has nothing to do with the one at hand.

There were many other things that she wrote in her post, regarding how “we should not be tricked by Satan as he has so cunningly done”, how “gay marriage ruins the sanctity of marriage”, how people “may be gay, but not around me”, etc. Whilst in fact I do realise that what I have written barely seems that “offensive”, I want to emphasise that I don’t want to comment on such things too much, as I am not wanting to offend anybody else’s points of view. What really struck me the most was how she replied to the follow up comments on her post, with rudeness and hate.

Overall, what I’m really trying to say is that everyone, whilst entitled to their own points of view, should respect others, regardless of what their opinion may be.

What are your opinions on the legalisation of gay marriage in America? Leave them in the comment section. I’d really be interested to read what everyone thinks, however please take into account what I have just written above. I do not want anybody having rude, offensive arguments.

Till next time,

Penny

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Opinion Post: Zoella

 

Hello everyone! I wanted to write about something that’s been a lot of talk at the moment on a variety of social media sites. Well not necessarily ‘something’, more like ‘someone’, and that person is youtuber/blogger Zoe Sugg (commonly known as Zoella).  

Zoe is one of the most subscribed to personalities on YouTube and is loved by many people all over the world. In recent times, I’ve noticed that there has been a lot of almost ‘hate’ towards Miss Sugg, her career and her life in general. 

Unfortunately with any sort of fame, there will always be criticism and ‘haters’. With seven million subscribers I’m sure that Zoe herself would be aware of the ‘hate’ that has been directed towards her. There has been much talk of the messages that she has been sending to young girls, about mental illness (as she herself suffers from anxiety), the validity of her book and how much she earns. 

Many have criticized Zoe of broadcasting the wrong message to young females. Mostly I’ve seen, “to be young and pretty”. Having myself been subscribed to Zoe for a long time on YouTube, not once have I heard her, or seen her write such a thing. Zoe’s videos are not directed at sending this message to people, and I doubt that this would have been her goal when making her videos in the first place. Yes, she does makeup tutorials, yes, she does clothing hall videos, but why do people have to look past the fact that she is just talking about what she enjoys talking about? Not once have I heard her tell her viewers that it’s ‘important’ to look pretty. In many cases I think that people have taken her interests and have turned them into something that it’s not. 

Zoe has mentioned in her videos that she suffers from anxiety, and it is known that she suffers from panic attacks. There has been much criticism that Zoe has provided incorrect information about her anxiety and what anxiety is general. Not once has Zoe stated that she is a doctor, psychologist, or a professional on the subject. I find it hard to see what is wrong with speaking out about your own experiences to people who may be suffering the same. It’s clear that Zoe’s intentions were just to try and help, not to diagnose people or provide wrong information. 

Zoe recently published a book entitled ‘Girl Online‘. All over the media there was information spread about Zoe’s ghost-writer who “wrote the book for her”. Many were enraged about this, saying that Zoe was just putting her name on something that she had nothing to do with. Zoe many times has been clear about her association with ghost-writers and how her book was written. In short, I really think that the fact that she used a ghost-writer isn’t a catastrophe. It isn’t worth making a huge fuss about. It’s a waste of time. It was her decision, and all in all, all the ideas/characters in that book were her own. Stop fussing and just let the woman do what she wants to do! 

Finally, there has been a lot of complaint about how much Zoe earns. Many have stated that she earns more than 20,000 pounds for each video she makes. My question is, where is this information been sourced from? No one truly knows how much she has made, and does it matter? She became successful in her own right, she earned it. Many have said that doctors/nurses, who help people, earn less. But again, how are we to know exactly what amount each person earns? And in the end, isn’t life about enjoying your career? It’s not all about money! 

Many may read this and think “typical Zoella fan this girl must be”, but that’s not how it is – I’m not writing this post for the sake of trying to get attention or to seem like a crazed fan. I enjoy watching Zoe’s videos, yes. However it frustrates me to see how successful people are always brought down by others. 

As a final sum up point, I think it’s none of anyone’s business. Everyone is entitled to some sort of privacy, and I believe that people need to stop overreading and overthinking things to extreme points. 

Till next time,

 

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